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Monday, October 27, 2008

Simplicity: The Family

(This post is rather closely related to my previous post on children. You could consider it as a second part.)

Here's a rather interesting picture I found in a book called Southern by the Grace of God, by Michael A. Grissom. This is the Crabtree family. At first glance, nothing unusual is noticed. To the casual observer this looks like an average family picture. But on second thought, perhaps this isn't so normal, because it's a picture of three generations of the Crabtree family. The couple seated in the middle are actually grandparents. Their son, standing on the back row, is the husband of the young woman standing beside him. The young woman is holding one of her babies and the other one is leaning on his grandfather's knee.

Now, is it just me? Or does that couple look like they're about 16 years old? Don't those grandparents look like they're in they're late thirties, early forties?

And here we see another principle of agrarian lifestyle: get married young and have lots of babies. My ancestors, on the Boyd side, were married at the average age of 20. And it shows, because since coming to this country, seven generations of Boyd's have averaged nine children per generation. I don't often say things this personal, but I'm glad I'm a member of a large family. I love each and every one of my eight siblings (even though it's rather difficult to see sometimes) and I thank God every morning for the blessing of growing up in a large family.

I believe when the bible says
: As arrows are in the hands of the strong man; so are the children of one's youth, it is adding further blessings to one that has children early. And yet studies show that pop culture is moving away from this. Voddie Baucham once said that the average age at which a male marries, is 28. Imagine how many more children would be born if the average marrying age was 20? Or even 25?

In the Industrial lifestyle of America, pop culture says "Aww, you don't need to get married young. You'll just be tied down. Sacrifice your children (literally) on the altar of convenience and continue on in your career of choice".

But once again, it seems our forefathers were smarter than we are. They learned the secret. Many hands make light work. In the average agrarian lifestyle, the children were a huge help around the farm. Now, of course, there was a huge investment by the parents in training the children to be responsible, etc.

But the parents simply had no greater joy than to see their children walk in truth. And the more the merrier.

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Blogger Jess said...


Our culture has really turned things around.

I was reading an article not too long ago that was talking about how the pet industry is doing extremely well right now and will continue to grow. The reason: people are having children later or not at all, and are turning to pets to fill that void. They are humanizing these critters and pouring their money into them.


Another thing--even if people do get married relatively young, they wait several years before they have young'uns, and then they only have 1.6 or whatever.

One word--Marxism. The nuclear family is under severe attack.

Great post!!!

October 28, 2008 at 10:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree whole-heartedly. Although I have not found "the one" yet, I am praying that the Lord will prepare her for me. I, Lord-willing, plan on having a large family myself. I am one of 8 children, and it's a blast living in a large family.

Like you said, Stephen, pop culture says we shold go against the Lord's mandate to "Be fruitful, and multiply." It also tells us to grow up fast, live fast(for yourself), and die fast.

We need to have large families, and "go against the grain" of our overly self-indulgent society. We need to follow the examples set by previous generations. As Psalm 127:5a says, "Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them."

October 28, 2008 at 10:27 AM  
Blogger Stephen G. said...

another great post, I agree.

October 28, 2008 at 5:00 PM  
Blogger Stephen G. said...

by the way I did not see a link to follow your blog, do you have one?

October 28, 2008 at 5:02 PM  
Blogger Stephen Boyd said...

Thanks for the comments, people.

Jess: Great observation! The bottom line is people are more important than animals. Man was given dominion over all the critters, not the other way around. ;)

Johnny Reb: I'm right with ya, man.A culture of convenience is a fast culture and a fast culture isn't simple.

Stephen: Thanks for the compliment! Your sister could probably explain it easier than I could.

October 28, 2008 at 7:17 PM  
Blogger Ana Smith said...

"The purpose of marriage is not pleasure and ease but the procreation and education of children and the support of a family.... People who do not like children are swine, dunces, and blockheads, not worthy to be called men and women, because they despise the blessing of God, the Creator and Author of marriage"

-Martin Luther

October 30, 2008 at 9:01 PM  

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